• Couples/Marriage Counseling in New York

    Couples/Marriage Counseling in New York

    • Do you feel like your relationship is at a standstill?
    • Are you and your partner stuck in the same argument loop every night?
    • Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting away?
    • Do you desire more intimacy between you and your partner?
    • Are you and your partner struggling to communicate about the issues at home?
    • Do you wish that you could get along better?
    • Do you want to be able to have those hard conversations with each other, without getting stuck?
    • Are you sick of feeling like you there’s no point in talking about things because nothing ever feels resolved?
    • Are you constantly fighting about the same things and feel like it’s never going to end?

    Maybe you are struggling to compromise or co-parent your children effectively. Are you unsure of how to move forward and even more unsure of what seems to be holding you back?

    Would you like help finding the tools and skills that can help your relationship out of the rut it has been in? Are you ready to get on the same page and move forward in your relationship?

    Relationships can be difficult to navigate especially when life continues to be ever-changing and moving.

    Marriages and relationships are constantly changing and individuals need to learn how to change with it. Maybe it is easier to blame everything on your partner than take responsibility for your side of things. Relationship difficulties can be extremely painful and difficult to face. Dealing with these types of issues can feel exhausting and pointless. The idea of having to change or take a look at yourself may feel hopeless and defeating.

    Different transitions in life sometimes need new ways of communicating and conflict management skills to come out on the other side.

    As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I can help you and your partner find better ways of communicating with each other. I can help you and your partner clearly identify your goals for couples therapy and your values and principles you identify as important. Helping you to get back to a healthy and openly communicating marriage/relationship.

    Marriage counseling can help you be the best partner possible

    A goal of couples therapy is to help you and your partner hear each other more fully. Therapy can help you learn how to communicate healthier with each other and identify the unhelpful ways you may be communicating presently such as; turning away from each other, eye-rolling, talking over each other, ignoring each other, or using dismissive body language.

    Together we can discuss the kind of lifestyle you want to have together, what you want to change, and the things you would like to receive more of from each other.

    My aim as a couples therapist is to help you find your way back to each other. I help clients identify the triggers that are causing relationship distress in a marriage/relationship. I believe that attachment issues from our past that are not resolved continue to replay in current relationships unless identified and resolved. I can help each of you find your authentic feelings associated with the present issues to help you find your way back to each other. Couples counseling is about helping you both become better versions of yourself so that you can be more present with each other. Change can be difficult and uncomfortable. But the truth is that we do not grow where we are comfortable. We grow the most when we are uncomfortable.

    Arguments and disagreements are a part of any relationship, especially long term relationships. Therapy can help to decrease the anxiety associated with disagreements and teach you to fight fair with each other with a healthy attitude.

    Couples counseling can help you restore lost intimacy, learn more about each other, learn to speak each other’s language, and increase your comfortability with discussing conflicts and issues as they present themselves. You do not have to continue to feel stuck and discouraged in your relationship.

    Some common concerns…

    If we need therapy that means our relationship is over?

    Relationships are constantly changing, as does life. With life transitions and changes, individuals need to learn to ebb and flow with those changes. People get stuck with one way of doing things and have difficulty identifying other ways to resolve issues. This is very common and an outside perspective can help you identify new ways to resolve issues and help you identify the old ways that do not work anymore.

    I don’t want everyone knowing my personal life. I am a private person.

    Luckily in therapy, there is a confidentiality clause which means that as a therapist I can not disclose to anyone what is discussed in couple therapy or even that you are a client. I also believe that clients bring to session what they are ready to work on. Due to this belief, I do not pressure my clients to discuss things they are not ready to discuss or are uncomfortable discussing.

    I’m worried that I will feel teamed up on and cornered in session.

    As a couples therapist, I function as a therapist for both partners equally. My job is to balance the therapy work between both clients as evenly as possible. I also believe in creating a safe and nonjudgemental space for the therapy process to take place which reduces the chances of this occurring in session.

    Are you ready to remember the reason you fell in love in the first place?

    Call to schedule a session for Marriage counseling and see how therapy can help your relationship function more effectively.

    315-944-0525

    I offer a FREE 15-minute consultation to determine if we are a good fit for each other.